Thanks, but No Thanks

20140730-102431-37471903.jpgOver the past three short months, I have been questioned or told certain things regarding me nursing my son and our ways. I am hoping that I am not the only crazy one and that this list will sum just a few things up for the nursing mom and her family…

1. You are bringing a bottle…

No. Bringing a bottle is not as easy as just bringing a bottle. We have covers for that if it suits the mother and baby (which will eventually become nosey and will fight this cover). It takes time to prepare this bottle. Whether it is taking those precious ounces out of your freezer that you have worked so hard for, or quickly pumping to accommodate others by just using a bottle. No thanks, I have my Hooter Hider.

2. How long do you plan on breastfeeding…

Quite frankly, we have no clue. Hell, I know that I am thrilled that we have made it past the first week, then the second week…I made it this far, I am sticking it out till LittleD has enough or until my body has enough. And NO, I will not just stop breastfeeding because he gets teeth. So don’t ask.

3. You are just going to pump…

No, we are not just going to pump. Like I mentioned previously, it is very hard to plan a pump and (I know I am not the only mother) we do not like our pumps. For me, the only time I want to see this pump is when I am away from baby. Other than that, I don’t want to see that evil thing.

4. You can just skip a pump…

Once again, no. A lot of people ask this and are very confused at what all it takes for a mother to establish and keep her supply up to par. If a mother is not by her baby, she must pump to make her body think that it is with her baby. If not, over time, this can decrease our supply that we have all lost many sleepless nights, made many many tears, and worked so hard for. We can not just skip a pump. It doesn’t work that way.

5. It’s time he should be in his crib…

Breastfeeding 101. You get more sleep when you either co-sleep with or share the same room with your breastfed baby. So thanks, but no thanks, things are working just fine and I know one mommy that is getting plenty of sleep without having to stir up the entire house or hike all the way to LitteD’s room. We will transition when both of us are ready, not when you think we are.

Thanks, but no thanks.

Do you have a pet-peeve about certain questions or statements from others about breastfeeding?

-Kaylie

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The Battle of the Breastmilk

Each day I look into my freezer and gaze in admiration of the many bags of breast milk that I have stored within a two month span. Might I add, when I say many, to me that is a total of 72 ounces. Yes TOTAL. Being able to accept the fact that you can only produce so much extra aside from the normal daily feedings (if you are EBF). I had to quickly come to terms with the fact that I was not a overproducer. I am only a normal producer.

20140727-104150-38510587.jpgEveryone has their own goal
The first time I realized that I had no
“stash” in my freezer was when I was about to return to work, I panicked. How am I going to keep up. Granted I only work two days a week and only need 12 ounces of milk while I am away, but those 12 ounces caught up with me. I began to pump every second I could while still exclusively breastfeeding…what second.? But I managed and didn’t get discouraged and now over a two month span, and many midnight pumps, I can proudly say that I have 72 whopping ounces in MY freezer.

Don’t compare stashes
This was the first step I had to come to terms with. Seeing all of the other posters on my Facebook breastfeeding/pumping support page
“show off” their stashes that were in the Hundreds, and even donating their left overs after baby has been EBF…I soon began to wonder, what was I doing wrong.
It wasn’t me.
I was making enough for my baby and to have a few ounces left over to pump was a miracle in my eyes.

Once I came to terms with what I could produce, I soon watched my
“stash” grow.

Do not get discouraged because of others, simply be thankful that you are able to breastfeed and provide your baby with the liquid gold and pump when the times are available. It may seem small at first, but it will quickly add up.

What’s your battle with breastfeeding?

-Kaylie